My four year old son seldom trusts me. Won’t try food I’ve vouched for. Won’t trust that I can erect a blanket fort that will meet his standards. Refuses to believe that I know what I’m talking about when I tell him I can turn right, even when the light in front of me is red. The effort he expends disputing me takes up so much time in the every day; and yet, he must feel it is his only choice in the moment.
We begin this way very early in life: trusting little and questioning everything. I’m a strong advocate of questioning what you’re handed and making it work for you, so don’t get me wrong here. But what I’m sharing in this blog post is that some things could go unquestioned. Sometimes, it’s okay to simply trust.
When it’s Okay to Trust
A big disrupt or perceived failure throws off your trajectory. You lose your job, can’t pass a certification exam, run low on funds because of unexpected expenses, feel like you won’t have enough time to meet a deadline etc. These kinds of stressors can send us into panic if we don’t have trust in ourselves, our ability to persevere, or the confidence that we will be taken care of. Any time I enter into one of these phases, I have to remind myself that I always find a way to do what needs to be done, regardless of how. If an expectation falls short and I’m unable to continue on a path that I thought was correct for me, I trust that I’m being redirected towards a greater calling. If I have a day where I feel like I’m not in the right head space to do work, I trust that time will be opened for me to complete the work by the time it needs to be done. When money is suddenly short, I trust that opportunities will be opened for me to make additional income. If you maintain an outlook that supports yourself, in all of your ups and downs, you will walk a path that connects you with your needs and passions.
What Happens When You Don’t Trust
When we’re redirected, and we don’t want to be, the tendency to resist flares and stubbornness abounds. We push on, refusing to let go of what we think we need, and ourselves and others suffer from it. But we continue anyway. For example: maybe after the fourth rejection, you finally get a job in the field that you think you want - but then you spend the next several years in a position that doesn’t fit and eventually you’re pushed out from it altogether. One way or another, you will be redirected if there is a greater calling for you. I’m not suggesting to give up on dreams if they don’t come easy. But I am suggesting that you pay attention and answer the call if you’re pulled in a new direction that might not look like what you had envisioned.
We’re not given a road map for our lives. So be open to the journey and really dig into learning about who you are and what you’re passionate about. The more you know yourself, the better you can trust your role on this planet, at this time in consciousness.